Madison Messer posted the sound relationship advice her mother gave at a girls' night out get-together, but she had no idea it would go viral"The person you marry, you need to know with all your heart, will take you through the death of your mother and the death of your father," Madison's mother, Robbi Messer, said in the clip"My mom has always kinda been a source for my friends to go to for advice, something about her is warm and people trust her," Madison tells PEOPLE A woman recently shared her mother's sage relationship advice regarding choosing the right spouse with the world via TikTok — what followed was a viral sensation that speaks to the emotional bonds and support of true love. Single social media influencer Madison Messer, 33, from Tampa, Fla., has a close relationship with her mother, who also is known for giving great advice. In her viral clip that has amassed more than 8 million views, Madison's mom Robbi Messer, 66, is the focus of the short, yet emotional video of a girls' night get-together where the conversation turned to choosing the right person to marry . "OK this isn't my normal content, but we're having a girls night with a ton of my girl friends [sic] & my mom is giving us her advice...it's intense but it felt too strong not to share," the text on the video reads, as Robbi tells Madison and her friends what to look for in a spouse. "The person you marry, you need to know with all your heart, will take you through the death of your mother and the death of your father. And if he's not up for that challenge, then you shouldn't marry him," Robbi says in the video. "When I married my husband I knew that, and we talked about it and he knew how hard it would be for me ... he knew what his job was, and he took me through the death of my father and the death of my mother. Marry a man who will do that for you," Robbi continued. In an exclusive interview with PEOPLE, Madison and Robbi spoke about the emotional moment going viral and the relationship advice millions have responded to. "Yes, I've always given her advice," Robbi says, to which Madison quips, "Do I take it?" before adding, "I'm getting better with age at taking the advice and seeing things maybe a little bit more clearer." Speaking of how the video came about, Madison explains, "My mom has always kinda been a source for my friends to go to for advice, something about her is warm and people trust her." She went on to share that she is "going through my own relationship issues at the moment," while one of her friends who was there that night was going through a divorce . "We were all just kinda having this moment of like, God, what are we all doing? How are you supposed to decide on this person you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with?" she says. Then her mother began talking, and Madison realized it was a moment she would want to remember. "I stopped her and recorded it, and I never heard her say it exactly like that," she tells PEOPLE of her mom's advice. "It was that kind of advice that makes you just go 'hmmm.' It was a really different way of looking at it, a perspective we had never seen before." Robbi, who admits that she doesn't like to be on camera, says that she initially wasn't sure how to feel when she realized that she had gone viral, but says that she warmed up to the idea due to the moving comments on the video. "As much as I personally don't like that attention, it touched me that it resonated with so many people. There's thousands and thousands of people sharing their stories of going through the loss of a parent and whether or not their husband was there," she adds. Robbi also shared that she and her husband talked about how she would deal with the death of her parents very early in their marriage, to which she says he assured her that "you are gonna be okay and I'm gonna help you get through it." An emotional Madison added that her mom's dream for her is to find a partner who "when I go they take my place." "Like, 'I want you to be with someone that's so supportive and is so pro-you... my biggest fear is that I'm gonna go and you're not gonna have someone to take my place. And so, I want you to meet someone who is so strong and is so unconditional for you, as I am to you. That's who you should marry,' " Madison recalls her mother saying. Robbi adds that particular advice is because she wants her children to choose someone who ultimately becomes their "home" after she's gone. "I know that when my kids meet their one, that I will no longer be their home," she explains. "And I think that's the most important thing for a spouse is that you no longer long for home because that is your home ... Look for your partner that will be your true north." 
