Teddi Mellencamp and husband Edwin Arroyave were in couples therapy 'for years' prior to bombshell divorce

An insider close to Teddi Mellencamp and Edwin Arroyave has claimed that The Real Housewives Of Beverly Hills duo has been in couples therapy 'for years' prior to their bombshell divorce.

On Wednesday, the source told Us Weekly that the former couple's split was imminent and 'a long time coming' as the 43-year-old mother had previously asked her estranged husband to go their separate ways.

'It was a long time coming and they have been up and down for the last seven-plus years,' they dished.

'This isn't the first time Teddi has wanted a divorce, and it has been an ongoing conversation between them for years.'

They source claimed the TV stars — who share three kids — had 'been in therapy over the years' trying to 'make it work.'

The insider also expressed that the pair had not been on the same page for some time.

'They have had some really high highs and low lows over the course of their marriage.

'They have agreed they are better as co-parents and can be amicable moving forward,' the source explained.

Mellencamp announced her split from the 47-year-old Spoken Word star after 13 years of marriage via Instagram, shocking RHOBH fans.

On Saturday, she admitted to her audience of over 1 million followers that she had made the 'difficult decision to file for divorce' from Arroyave.

She penned: 'My priority is my children and ensuring that every care is taken with their privacy and wellbeing throughout this new chapter.

'Making a public statement is not something I wanted to do but in an effort to protect my family from undue speculation and rumors, I felt being open, honest and vulnerable was the best path forward.'

Teddi, the daughter of legendary rocker John Mellencamp, met Edwin at a Los Angeles nightclub in 2009 and married him two years later.

They then welcomed their son Cruz, 10, and daughters Slate, 12, and Dove, four, together. Teddi is also stepmother to Arroyave's daughter from a previous relationship, 15-year-old Isabella.

Court documents showed that Mellencamp listed their date of separation as October 20, 2024 - four days before attending a gala together in New York City .

Just hours after she posted the divorce announcement, Mellencamp was spotted still wearing her diamond wedding ring on her finger.

Though her soon-to-be ex-husband has yet to publicly address their split, on Sunday he posted a photo of himself taking their children to church via Instagram.

On Tuesday, the blonde beauty opened up about the divorce on her and Tamra Judge's Two Ts in a Pod podcast, expressing that she was in a stable place mentally.

'I am doing alright,' she said.

'I know that I am gonna keep working on feeling my best so that I can show up the best for my kids and my life and my work. I think that's the biggest thing for me right now.'

When Teddi joined The Real Housewives Of Beverly Hills in 2017, she and Edwin had reached a crisis point in their marriage and were on the brink of splitting up.

During her 'first day' of filming, Teddi thought to herself: 'F***, at what point do I tell everybody that I'm getting a divorce?'

She recalled: 'We are at our worst absolute phase, because truthfully, for us, it was really about a power struggle,' on her podcast Two Ts In A Pod , which she co-hosts with Orange County Housewife Tamra Judge.

'We were always kind of equals when we were together. I rode horses, I was competitive and I was all these things,' Teddi remembered.

'Then I couldn't get pregnant naturally, I did all these IVFs. Then, all of a sudden, he was in charge of our finances, and I had never been that. I never not had my own money, I had been working since I was 17. Then I just started hating him.'

She and Edwin were ultimately able to patch up their differences, and she enjoyed a three-season run as a full-time Real Housewife Of Beverly Hills.

Although she lost her position in the main cast in 2020, she has since guest-starred on the show a number of times as a 'friend' of the Housewives.

In July 2023, Teddi posted a candid Instagram post about the occasional tensions in her marriage - and the way she and Edwin went about addressing them.

'When was the last time you really told your significant other exactly what you want and need? I often times don't and then let things build up and fester. I mean aren't our people mind readers? Can't they tell what my heavy annoyed breathing means? The answer is no,' the showbiz legacy wrote in her caption.

'I tried out being 100 percent direct with yesterday for my birthday and guess what— it worked like a charm. I said: You can work until 11am while I take the kids riding. After we get back I want a date of my favorite things,' she wrote.

The date would consist of: 'Lunch. Walk around BH people watching. A couple's treatment at my fave spa, an early dinner and then some romantic time and early to bed. I asked if he could be off of his phone, because when he texts, even though I know its work, I get my feelings hurt.'

;The experience was, for her, 'an excellent reminder that we have to spell out what we both want and need in this marriage. I woke up with tears in my eyes so grateful for all the laughs, important convos and silly fluff we talked about.'

She summed up her caption by explaining: 'Marriage isn't easy and we all have high highs and low lows but if we are vulnerable and open up, it can lead to one of the best days you have had in a long time.'

A few months later, Teddi also shared an 'appreciation post' for her husband, hailing the way he cared for her during her battle with skin cancer.

She recounted a recent ordeal during which the toll from my immunotherapy treatment hit new levels,' leaving her crying as 'extreme pain from the inside-out, sores, vomiting and sadness rushed over me.'

Teddi lovingly remembered: 'Edwin could have tried to give me a quick fix or tell me I am OK or give me a pep-talk. Instead, he comforted me, held my hair back and showed me love and compassion.'

She reflected: 'So often we want to be strong for our partner, pretending to be super-human for the sake of optics or a fear of being seen as weak. But last night, I felt a strength from Edwin that radiated through both of us— and it's something I still feel as I write this.'