An Alabama principal lost her job after she came out. Her conservative community rallied around her

VESTAVIA HILLS, Ala. — Principal Lauren Dressback didn't think about it after it happened. After all, she was workplace-close with Wesley Smith, the custodian at Cahaba Heights Elementary School, in this affluent suburb of Birmingham. She called him "the mayor." She said that he knew her two children, asked about her family almost daily and made a point of interacting. "Every day, a huge bear hug," she recalled.

So, when Dressback, just after last Valentine's Day, asked Smith to come into the nurse's office and shut the door, and then shared three photos on her phone of who she had just started dating, it felt ordinary. Afterward, she said, "I just moved right on about my day."

But the 2-minute and 13-second exchange — captured on video by the nurse — would prove fateful.

In a few short months, after a two-decade career, Dressback, a popular educator, would go from Vestavia Hills City school district darling to controversial figure after she came out as gay, divorced her husband, and began dating a Black woman.

Within days of showing the custodian the photos, she was ordered to leave the building and was barred from district property. Soon, she found herself facing a litany of questions from district leaders about a seemingly minor issue: employee timesheets. In April, she was officially placed on administrative leave. On May 2, during a packed school board meeting, she was demoted, replaced as principal, and sent to run the district's alternative high school.

It matters that this story is unfolding in Vestavia Hills. The city's motto is "A Life Above," and the municipal website declares that it "exemplifies the ideals of fine southern hospitality."

At that school board meeting, as he had for weeks, Todd Freeman, the superintendent, refused to offer an explanation, even to Dressback. Rather, at the beginning of the meeting, he read a statement that "we have not, cannot, and will not make personnel decisions based on an individual's race, sex, sexual orientation, religion, national origin or disability." (When contacted, Vestavia Hills City Schools spokesperson Whit McGhee said the district would not discuss confidential personnel matters and declined to make Freeman available for an interview. He provided links to school board meeting minutes, district policies and Alabama educator codes without explaining how they applied in Dressback's case. Freeman and two other district officials involved in the situation did not respond to emails requesting interviews or a list of detailed questions.)

Despite Freeman's assertion regarding personnel decisions, many people in the community believe differently. So many, in fact, that "the Dressback situation" has lit up social media (one TikTok post has more than 313,000 views), spurred supermarket conversations and online chatter — and challenged allegiances.

"The entire situation has divided the community," said Abbey Skipper, a parent at Cahaba Heights Elementary. Some people, she said, are "trying to label everyone who is on the side of Dressback as leftists or Democrats or radicals" and assuming "everyone who supports the superintendent and the board is a Republican — which isn't true."

A private Facebook group, "We Stand With Lauren" quickly gathered 983 members, while a public Facebook post by a fifth grade teacher at Cahaba Heights complained of the "news frenzy and whirlwind of social media misinformation" and stated that, "We Stand for Our Superintendent, Our District Office, Our Board, and our new principal, Kim Polson." The May 8 teacher post, which got 287 likes and 135 comments, both in support and challenging the post, went on to say, "To do our jobs to the best of our ability, we trust the people who have been charged to lead us."

Alabama has among the strictest anti-gay policies in the nation. This past legislative session, the House passed a bill to ban LGBTQ+ flags and symbols from schools. It also expands to middle schools the current "Don't Say Gay" law , which prohibits instruction or discussion of LGBTQ+ issues in elementary schools. Its sponsor, Rep. Mack Butler, who represents a suburban community in northeast Alabama, stated that it could "purify the schools just a little bit." He later walked back the comment . The bill died in the Senate, but Butler has vowed to reintroduce it next session.

The bill was one of dozens introduced or passed in states around the country restricting classroom discussion of gender identity, books with LGBTQ+ characters and displays of pride symbols. The laws have contributed to a climate in which "every classroom has been turned into a front" in a battle, said Melanie Willingham-Jaggers, executive director of GLSEN, which advocates for LGBTQ+ individuals in K-12 education. "Every educator, every administrator now has to be on that front line every single day," she said. "We're seeing educators leave because of the strain of the job made worse by the political moment we're in and we're also seeing because of the political moment we're in, educators being targeted for their personal identity."

Tiffany Wright, a professor at Millersburg University in Pennsylvania who studies the experience of LGBTQ+ educators, said right now many "are very on edge." Wright and her colleagues have surveyed LGBTQ+ teachers and principals four times since 2007, with new 2024 data to be released in November. While the past decade has seen strides toward acceptance, "the regional differences are huge," she said. "Folks in the South definitely felt less safe being out to their communities and students." November's presidential and statewide elections could yield even sharper differences in LGBTQ+ protections between red and blue states.

Personnel matters are individual, but Dressback's case taps wider concerns. A review of her personnel file shows no reprimands until June, when she received an evaluation questioning her professional conduct that followed Dressback filing a complaint with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission alleging work-based discrimination (her lawyer said that he amended the complaint to also allege that the district retaliated against her for the EEOC filing). This raises a question: Why was she removed?

While quite a few states long had laws barring discrimination based on sexual orientation, it took a 2020 Supreme Court decision, Bostock v. Clayton County , to bring such protections to Alabama. That changed landscape spurred Dressback to engage lawyer Jon Goldfarb, who filed the complaint with the federal EEOC, which is investigating. This fall, he expects to file a separate federal civil rights complaint. In 30 years of practice in Alabama, Goldfarb said, "I've had a lot of people that have come to me and complain about being discriminated against because of their sexual orientation." Until Bostock, he would tell them, "There is nothing we can do."

Dressback's situation, however, is about more than the law. It also challenges her place in the white Christian, predominantly conservative community she grew up in, belongs to and loves. And it offers a test case in a divided political time: Will her removal and the outcry that followed harden partisan alignments — or shake them? Even in Alabama, a Pew Research Center survey shows , more than one-third of those who lean Republican say homosexuality should be accepted.nb

Brian DeMarco, a local attorney and high school classmate of Dressback's, was sporting bright print swim trunks, a T-shirt and a Vestavia Hills baseball cap when we met at the public swimming pool where he'd brought his kids. We sat at a picnic table; the squeals of children released to the joys of summer carried in the warm Alabama air. He said he understands why some people may not be comfortable with a gay elementary school principal.

"Her coming out as an educator, being around children, I think that frightens people, certain people all over the country," he said. And in the South, in a conservative town, "it does become a bigger issue to people." Politically, DeMarco tends "to swing right," but sent Dressback a message of support on Facebook. "Everybody that knows Lauren knows she is a good person," he said.

In fact, Dressback's case has spurred public outrage because so many people do know her. She attended Vestavia Hills Public Schools — Class of 1997 — and her mother, now retired, was a popular high school English teacher and yearbook adviser. She followed her parents into education (her father was a geography professor) and returned to teach social studies at the high school.

In 2015, she was named secondary teacher of the year; in 2017, the graduating class dedicated the yearbook to her. She moved into administration and advanced; in 2022 she was appointed principal of Cahaba Heights Elementary School. She was awarded a three-year contract , effective July 2023, following a probationary year. In December — weeks before she was told to gather her things and was escorted off school grounds — she was given a positive write-up by an assistant superintendent who observed her running a meeting of teachers about the school's "core values."

It also matters that this story is unfolding in Vestavia Hills. The city's motto is "A Life Above," and the municipal website declares that it "exemplifies the ideals of fine southern hospitality." The community was born as a post-World War II subdivision and incorporated in 1950 with 3,000 residents (it now has 38,000). It is an effortfully attractive place with well-kept painted brick homes and clipped lawns. It is named for Vestavia, the exotic estate of former Birmingham Mayor George C. Ward whose Roman-inspired home was here. The 1930s-era news accounts describe lavish parties with male servers draped in togas.

Vestavia Hills is also one of the "over the mountain" suburbs of Birmingham. When you drive over Red Mountain out of the urban core with its reminders of steelmaking and jazz, of Martin Luther King Jr. and the Negro Leagues, away from streets where shabbily dressed men push wheeled contrivances, where pride flags fly and breweries sprout, where drag queens coexist with affirming churches, you enter a different world. Birmingham is a Black city; Vestavia Hills is 86 percent white.

And like surrounding white suburbs of Mountain Brook, Homewood and Hoover, Vestavia Hills competes on lifestyle, including its public schools. Alabama is hardly an education leader, yet the four districts earn mention in U.S. News rankings . Church is also central to life here; biographies for public officials name which they attend.

"You move a child into the school system, there's two questions they're asked," Julianne Julian, a resident and another Dressback high school classmate, said when we met at a coveted rear table inside the Diplomat Deli, a popular Vestavia Hills lunch spot. "Who are you for as far as football — Alabama? Auburn? — and what church do you go to?"

Teams matter in Vestavia Hills — the high school's in particular. The district itself was founded in 1970 amid federal desegregation orders, when residents broke away from the Jefferson County Schools and agreed to pay an extra tax. They adopted the Rebel Man in Civil War military uniform as the district's mascot. Dressback's 1996 junior year high school yearbook includes a photo of students at a rally waving massive Confederate flags. "It was just kind of the way we were growing up," said DeMarco, who in high school displayed a Confederate flag on his Nissan pickup. "It was just kind of cool."

It wasn't until 2015 that the district considered changing the mascot. After contentious public meetings in which some argued that the mascot and flag were not racist — a point ridiculed by John Oliver on national television — the district chose to adopt the 1Rebel rebrand. (Mess with one Rebel and you mess with us all, is the concept. They are still called "The Rebels," but simply use the letters "VH.")

When I met with Dressback, days after school let out, she answered the door to her apartment wearing a T-shirt that read "love. empathy. compassion. inclusion. justice. kindness." She looked like she could use every one of those things. She was welcoming, but said she was nervous about talking. She had not spoken publicly since she was escorted out of Cahaba Heights Elementary in February. We sat at her dining table — I brought an Italian sub, no onions or peppers, hot, from Diplomat Deli, Dressback's regular order — and in our conversations then and later, she appeared to believe the best about people.

Others in Vestavia clearly believe the best about her: Since things erupted, her phone has pinged with messages, including from former students. "Thank you for making an impact on my life," said one of the many that she shared with me. "You stood up for me in class when someone made fun of me for having depression and I'll never forget that," wrote another. And, "you may not remember me, but I had you as a teacher during my time at VHHS and even when I was not your student, I still saw you as a person who cared for all students, not just the ones on your roster." (Dressback said she has "not received any negative messages. Not one.")

At Cahaba Heights, parents noticed her gift for calming children with behavior issues. A mother of twins who got tripped up by transitions (drop-off is "the hardest part of our morning") said that, with Dressback greeting them at the curb, "We didn't have that struggle this year at all." Sometimes Dressback would slip on a crazy wig or costume — Santa, Minion, astronaut, among others; before winter breaks she donned an elf outfit and climbed atop the brick marquee in front of the school to the delight of arriving children and passing cars. She wanted to remind everyone that school is fun.

"Her love for the children just reached every square inch of the school," said Skipper, the Cahaba Heights parent of a second grader who moved to the neighborhood specifically for the school. Her removal "plunged me into grief. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, I lost weight. The amount of upset was palpable. I loved her. She loved my child."

Shane Dressback told me that he struggled with the news. On one of his worst days, however, he said that God told him to love her "no matter what." The next day, he told Lauren, "I was going to love her unconditionally and unconventionally." The marriage ending was painful, but they remain close. "I know she loved me for 23 years," he said. "There was nothing fake there."

As we sat at her dining table, Dressback shared that she sensed she was gay in high school but said that "it sort of felt clear to me that I couldn't have that life here." The only gay people she knew well were two family members. When her Uncle Dennis died of complications from HIV and her cousin Robyn died by suicide, as upset as she was, being out was tough to imagine.

The tragedies coincided with her time at Samford University, the private Baptist college where her father taught. "It's one of the most religiously conservative schools in the nation," she said. "You go to Samford to not be different." And it was there in a geography class that she met Shane Dressback when the two arrived early one day and "started chit-chatting." They were engaged the next year, and married in January 2001, just after her December graduation.

"I met Shane and did very genuinely fall in love with him," she said. "He is a wonderful man." They had two children — Kaylee graduated from college in May and is playing semi-pro soccer, and Tyler is a senior in high school — and were consumed with family life. But then, as she approached becoming an empty-nester, Dressback began having panic attacks around being gay, she said, feeling that "I've pushed this down for a really long time."

This past December, she came out to Shane. They didn't speak for more than 24 hours. Then, she texted him to say she was going to church. Minutes after the service began, she told me, "He texted me and said, 'I'm here. May I come sit by you?' So, we sat together at this church service. Both of us cried the whole way through it."

Shane Dressback told me that he struggled with the news. On one of his worst days, however, he said that God told him to love her "no matter what." The next day, he told Lauren, "I was going to love her unconditionally and unconventionally." The marriage ending was painful, but they remain close. "I know she loved me for 23 years," he said. "There was nothing fake there."

The two held hands as they told their children and parents. They divorced, sold their home and rented apartments near one another. They still have family dinners and Shane cooks; leftovers of "Daddy's Jambalaya" were in the refrigerator of Lauren Dressback's apartment when I visited. Kaylee came by with her goldendoodle, Dixie, to grab a helping for lunch.

Throughout Dressback's ordeal with the school district, Shane has been her defender. "Lauren is a child of God and should be treated as such," he said, as we sat at a friend's brewery during off-hours. He knows her to be professionally excellent; her personal life should not matter. "It was no one's business what was going on in our bedroom beforehand and I don't think that's anybody's business now," he said. "People have drawn a line in the sand where I think it needs to be more about, you know, loving people as Jesus did."

Shane was the one who urged Dressback to attend a brunch in early February organized by members of a LILLES Facebook group, which connects later-in-life lesbians. There she met her girlfriend, Angela Whitlock, a former medical operations officer in the U.S. Army and law student (she graduated in May). The two began a relationship that appears to charm and steady Dressback. At a dinner during my visit, they held hands under the table.

Dressback says she came out to Freeman, the superintendent, at the end of a one-on-one meeting in January in the spirit of transparency. But the incident that appears central to Dressback's removal unfolded just after Valentine's Day, when Dressback asked Smith, the custodian, to come into the office of nurse Julie Corley, whom she described as a close friend at the time, and "close the door."

Dressback said it was Corley's idea to show Smith the photos to see his reaction. He was in the lunchroom near Corley's office. The brief exchange between Dressback and Smith was captured on video. (Dressback said she did not initially notice Corley filming, but did not stop her when she did, something she now regrets.) Corley did not respond to several interview requests by email and text, and, when reached by phone, said she was not interested in speaking and hung up. Dressback said she has not had any communication with Corley since being removed.

"You shared something about your past, I was going to share something with you," Dressback says to Smith in the video. "Do you want to see a picture of who I'm dating?" She and Whitlock had had their third date on Feb. 14. He says reflexively, "Shane?" She responds, "He's my ex-husband." Smith appears surprised. "April Fool?" and asks how long they were married. She says, "23 years." He expresses disbelief. "You and him broke up?" Dressback holds out her phone to show a photo of her and Whitlock.

"Who the hell is this? I mean, Who is this?" he asks. Several times Smith states that he doesn't believe it. She hands him her phone. "Bullshit!" he exclaims as he looks at the three photos. "Stop lyin'!"

There is one of Whitlock kissing Dressback on the cheek, one with their faces cheek to cheek and one in which they are sitting at a bar with Dressback's arms around Whitlock, their noses touching. Smith then says, "Wow, I'm sorry," and pulls her into a hug. "Once you go Black, baby, you don't go back," he quips. She groans at his attempt at humor.

Dressback's lawyer said that an affidavit the district obtained from Smith "appears to be in conflict on several points with what the video shows," including a claim that he was made uncomfortable by the encounter. When reached by phone, Smith insisted, "I made no type of statement" even as district officials were "coming at me" seeking to query him, he said. "I hadn't talked to nobody about the incident."

(McGhee, the school district spokesperson, declined to provide answers to specific questions, including regarding the apparent affidavit from Smith.)

Days after Dressback shared the photos, on the morning of Feb. 23, Meredith Hanson, the district's director of personnel, and Aimee Rainey, the assistant superintendent who had given Dressback the positive write-up in December, arrived at Cahaba Heights for a surprise meeting. Dressback said they told her that someone had complained that she shared "explicit" details of her relationship at a meeting with teachers. Dressback knew that to be untrue. "I kind of relaxed because I was like, 'Oh, yeah, that absolutely did not happen,'" she recalled.

They questioned her in a way she found confusing. She asked for details of the complaint, but was told, "You know, 'explicit.' And I'm like, I know what 'explicit' means. Like are you going to tell me what they said I said or what?" They asked if she showed Smith photos of her and her girlfriend. She said she did. Meanwhile, she observed to me later, "There is a picture of Shane and me kissing on our lips at our wedding on the bookshelf right behind them." (Hanson and Rainey did not respond to interview requests or to a list of detailed questions for this story.)

Dressback says she was then told to gather her belongings, and that she was being placed on "detached duty," requiring that she work from home. She was barred from school property. She was escorted from the building, which she said made her feel "like a criminal." She expected to be gone for a few days.

But several days later, Dressback was informed of a new problem: timesheets. In January, she had met with staff to remind them about clocking in and out (everyone must clock in, and paraprofessionals must clock out during lunch).

On March 4, while still barred from the Cahaba Heights campus, Dressback met with Freeman, Rainey and Hanson in the conference room at the central office to discuss timesheets. Two days later, she was told that the following morning, March 7, she was to fire two employees for irregularities on their timesheets. One, she knew, had an attendance problem. She said that she had already discussed with Hanson not renewing him at the end of the school year.

The other was a close friend, Stefanie Robinson, a paraprofessional who worked with students with severe disabilities, including those requiring help with feeding and diapering. Robinson often stayed in the classroom during her lunch breaks to aid the special education teacher because one student had as many as 30 seizures a day. When I met Robinson at her home, she acknowledged to sometimes forgetting to clock out or in, or not being able to do so if she was attending to a child's needs. "If I'm in a massive diaper situation, I'm not going to remember to clock out, or if I'm helping a kid that's having a seizure or, you know, one that's in crisis," Robinson told me.

What most upset Robinson, however, was that shortly after Dressback was escorted out of the school and placed on "detached duty," requiring she work from home, Robinson faced 45 minutes of questioning by Hanson and Rainey about Dressback's dating life that she says "felt like an interrogation." After confirming that she and Dressback were close, Robinson says she was asked questions such as, "When Lauren goes on a date, what does she say happens? And I was like, 'What do you mean? What do you want to know?" They pressed: "Well, when she goes on a date and the date ends, what does she say happens after that?" Robinson insisted, "I don't ask her how her date ended."

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On March 7 at 5:58 a.m., Robinson received a text from Hanson asking her "to start your day at the Board of Education" instead of Cahaba Heights. As soon as she arrived at the central office, she saw Dressback in the room; Dressback said Freeman had told her to fire Robinson. "I could tell she'd been crying," said Robinson. "And I just smiled at her, I was like, 'It's OK.'" Robinson recalled Dressback saying, "in the most robotic tone, 'It's my recommendation to the board that your contract be terminated immediately.'"

She hugged Dressback, told her she loved her, and left. Robinson texted the parent of one of her students, a second grade girl who is nonverbal, uses a wheelchair and has cerebral palsy and epilepsy. The girl's mom, Payton Smith, no relation to Wesley, told me that she'd appreciated how Dressback had welcomed her child to the school a few years earlier. The principal had asked, "'What do we need to do to make your kid feel comfortable?' and recognized her as a child," and not a set of legal educational requirements to meet, Smith recalled. Despite Robinson's key role in her daughter's education, Smith said she was not officially notified until March 19 — nearly two weeks later — via email that "Mrs. Robinson is no longer working at VHECH," district shorthand for Cahaba Heights.

Yet an email of district documentation shared with me states the date of Robinson's leaving as April 5, and said that she had resigned. Nonetheless, the district continued to pay her for the rest of the school year, which she said felt "like I was being paid off because they knew what they did was wrong." She is now a clinical research data coordinator for University of Alabama at Birmingham School of Medicine. (Neither McGhee, the district spokesperson, nor Hanson, in charge of HR, responded to email requests seeking comment on why Robinson was fired, the claim that she had resigned, or the discrepancy in her pay.)

Meanwhile, on March 13, Dressback emailed Freeman asking to be reinstated to her position at Cahaba Heights, immediately. "I believe the action the system has taken against me is discrimination because of my sexual orientation, my interracial relationship, and my gender," she wrote. The next day, Goldfarb, her lawyer, filed the EEOC complaint. (He later filed a supplemental charge alleging retaliation and additional discrimination.)

On April 18, Dressback received a letter signed by Freeman officially placing her on administrative leave. It states that she is "not to contact any employees of the Vestavia Hills Board of Education related to your or their employment or relationship with the Vestavia Hills City Schools." The letter does not state a reason for the action.

As a result, to parents and some educators, Dressback seemed to have vanished. "I thought like, 'Oh, I bet she's sick. That's really sad,'" said Lindsay Morton, a Cahaba Heights parent, a reaction echoed by others. Then, on April 27, two of Dressback's classmates from high school posted videos on social media.

"Where is Principal Dressback???" a schoolmate and friend, Karl Julian, titled a video on his YouTube channel. It has been viewed more than 11,000 times. Lauren Pilleteri Reece, who as laurenpcrna has 228.7K followers on TikTok, posted several videos narrating Dressback's battle; the first has more than 313,000 views and 3,400 comments. Reece has known Dressback since high school.

When the Vestavia Hills School Board called a meeting five days later, on May 2, to take up Dressback's employment, everyone seemed to know about it. People rallied outside the district headquarters holding posters with messages such as "We Stand with Principal Dressback" and "Love is Love." Many people wore green, Dressback's favorite color, to signal support. Local TV and news reporters showed up.

"We are all watching this. It is not just a Vestavia Hills issue anymore," said Rep. Neil Rafferty, the only openly gay member of the Alabama Legislature. The action, he said, signals "to your students who might be LGBTQ that they don't matter."

The room thrummed with emotion. There were angry, even tearful Cahaba Heights Elementary parents, teachers and retired teachers, students, former classmates and others who knew Dressback, plus some who didn't know her. "I've never met her, I just know she had been wronged," said Jim Whisenhunt, an advertising executive whose children, now grown, attended Vestavia Hills public schools.

Dressback, fearing that she could not keep her composure, did not attend. Those who did attend had a lot to share. But before public comments were permitted or a vote was taken, Freeman read the prepared statement in which he said he wanted "to address, in general, personnel decisions made by the board." He went on to say that they "have not, cannot, and will not make personnel decisions based on an individual's race, sex, sexual orientation, religion, national origin, or disability" and that "all of our decisions are vetted thoroughly and thoughtfully." He added that "district employees contribute to academic excellence and are committed to our mission to provide every child in our schools the opportunity to learn without limits." Then, over the objections of many in the audience who demanded a chance to comment before a vote was taken, the board officially transferred Dressback from Cahaba Heights Elementary to the alternative school.

When public comments began, the outrage was obvious. "We may color outside of your lines a little bit, but coloring outside of your lines at no point does that ever mean that we are unprofessional. Lauren did not become unprofessional overnight," said a charged-up Reece, who also came out as an adult. "You started looking at her as unprofessional overnight."

Rep. Neil Rafferty, a Democrat who represents Birmingham, stated that he "felt compelled to drive straight here" after "a long week in Montgomery" even though it is not his district. "We are all watching this. It is not just a Vestavia Hills issue anymore," said Rafferty, the only openly gay member of the Alabama Legislature. The action, he said, signals "to your students who might be LGBTQ that they don't matter."

Rev. Julie Conrady, minister of the Unitarian Universalist Churches of Birmingham and Tuscaloosa, and president of a local interfaith group, stood up to speak. "You are sending her a message that in Vestavia Hills it is not OK to be LGBTQ," she told the board and superintendent. "You should not be punished in your job in 2024 because of who you love." Conrady, in black liturgical robe and green stole, told the crowd "that there are consequences here for all these people. I want you to get pictures of every single name and vote them the hell out!" (The school board is appointed by the City Council, not elected.)

Another speaker, Allison Black Cornelius, who said she was "a conservative Republican," focused on what seemed to make this issue explode: the silence. The superintendent and board had given no explanation, even to Dressback, as to why she was removed and now demoted, she said. "When you wait this long," said Cornelius, "it puts this person in this black cloud."

Her point underscored a question others raised at the meeting to a board that largely remained silent: If Dressback did something so egregious as to require she be escorted from school and barred from district property, why was she suitable to lead the alternative school? The district declined to answer this question.

The division, so apparent at that meeting, seemed to only harden a few weeks later during the board's annual meeting on May 28. A group supporting the board and superintendent appeared in blue T-shirts and applauded after the board gave Freeman a new four-year contract that included a raise to $239,500 (he was paid $190,000 when he was hired in 2018) plus perks. Dressback supporters in green again spoke, sharing their frustration.

This is not the first time Vestavia Hills City Schools have made unpopular personnel moves. In August 2020, Tyler Burgess, a well-loved bow-tied principal, was removed as head of the high school and assigned to oversee remote learning during Covid, when many classes were online; the board voted not to renew his contract in March 2021. Students organized a protest; 3,134 people signed a petition calling for his reinstatement. The board and superintendent did not provide an explanation for their decision. Burgess, who has a doctorate in education, is now director of learning and development at a large construction firm. He did not respond to multiple interview requests.

Danielle Tinker came to Vestavia Hills after more than a dozen years in Birmingham and Jefferson County schools, first as assistant principal at Liberty Park Elementary. In spring 2021, she was selected as principal of Cahaba Heights. From the start, Tinker, who is Black, felt unwelcome at the school where the teaching staff was nearly all white, she told me when we met for lunch. The day she was introduced as the new principal, a staff member emailed her, saying that "Cahaba Heights is a family" and that "today was hard on this family," according to a copy of the email that she shared with me. Tinker said she was told by staff that the faculty had wanted a different principal; a later inquiry confirmed that staff felt "blindsided" when she was selected over that individual.

As principal, Tinker raised questions with Rainey, the assistant superintendent, over student s in a fall 2021 newsletter, including two about race. They were titled "Anti-Racist Kids: Leading the Way to New Beginnings" and "Learning About Racism: How It Can Change Lives." Tinker told me she feared those s would be "more fluff than addressing the actual challenge" with claims such as "Racism is part of our lives, but it doesn't have to be a bad thing if we are the ones ending it." Rainey agreed to pause publication of the newsletter, which she said upset several teachers who wanted it published.

On Dec. 16, 2021, several hours after Tinker told teachers that publication was being paused, Tinker emailed Hanson raising an "employee concern" after one of the teachers "stormed down the hallway" and was "pointing at me and yelling," according to a copy of Tinker's emails exchanges that she shared with me. The next day, Tinker received a letter from Freeman stating that he was recommending she be transferred to the alternative school, effective Jan. 3. In March, Tinker filed a complaint of racial discrimination with the EEOC and resigned, using her remaining personal time to cover her pay for the remainder of the school year. In February 2023, she and the district reached a settlement for an undisclosed amount. She is using the money to attend law school. (McGhee, the district spokesperson, did not answer questions about Tinker or Burgess; Rainey and Hanson also did not respond.)

On my last day in town in early June, Dressback gave me a guided tour of Vestavia Hills. We met inside the Diplomat Deli; Reece, Dressback's high school classmate with the large TikTok following, joined us. As we walked out, Dressback, wearing a Care Bears T-shirt, showed off a new tattoo on her left forearm. In typewriter font it reads, "Speak the truth, even if your voice shakes."

I slid into the passenger seat of her car, a red Buick Encore whose license plate reads "DBACK." Reece hopped in back. An order of fries from Milo's, a favorite Dressback fast-food spot since high school, leaned in a cup holder. Soon, we passed places they hung out as kids, schools they attended, new neighborhoods and old, the spot at Vestavia Country Club with a panoramic view where kids still take prom photos.

The discussion jumbled together past and present, reminding these childhood friends — both of whom came out as adults — how much has changed. And how much has not. When we reached Vestavia Hills High School, Dressback stopped near a small sign at sidewalk level that reads "Alternative Placement" with an arrow. I descended metal stairs that span a rocky embankment; the alternative school, Dressback's new assignment, is subterranean, its entrance nearly hidden from view. If architecture can relay shame, it might look like this.

Yet when I returned to the car, Dressback told me she saw the alternative school as an opportunity rather than an exit. The school has often operated without a principal (Tinker never stepped inside or interacted with students, partly because of the COVID-19 pandemic). At that late May school board meeting , Freeman could not say how many pupils attend the school. But Dressback was struck by what DeMarco, her classmate, told her. As a student, he spent time at the alternative school; he could have used someone like her.

"I'm not gonna just go and sit and read a book. I can't do that," Dressback said, as she pulled out of the high school driveway. She wanted to make it a place less about punishment and more about connecting with kids for whom the traditional school is not a fit. It should not be a dumping ground for educators or for kids, she said. "My mindset is I'm gonna go and I'm gonna make this the best damn alternative school in the state."

In other words, Dressback is not willing to let go or to disappear. Yet "the Dressback situation" is hardly resolved. A few days after my visit, in early June, Dressback met with Freeman to receive an official performance review for the 2023-24 academic year, a copy of which she shared with me It was the first official yearly evaluation she had been given in her career in the district despite a stipulation in her contract that this occur annually, she said. It is searing. It finds that her "job performance is unsatisfactory." The report was sent to the state Department of Education, per Alabama code requiring that personnel records and "investigative information" of employees placed on administrative leave for cause be reviewed by the department.

Most damning are six bullet points of claims. One alludes to Robinson's employment and the timesheet matter. The most explosive is cast as "failure to demonstrate moderation, restraint, and civility in dealing with employees" and includes salacious assertions, including "public displays of affection and of photographs which would not, for example, be tolerated even among high school students" — presumably a reference to the photos shown to Smith, the custodian. It includes a charge Dressback had never heard before: a claim of "remote activation by your husband of a sexual toy on your person while you were in a school meeting."

Dressback was floored by the charges, and countered each in her rebuttal, which she asked to have filed with the state Department of Education in response to Freeman's report. Regarding the sex toy claim, Dressback wrote that it is "false. I have never done that, and I would never do that." The very idea of "remote activation" of a sex toy by her husband was absurd, she said. "I wouldn't think that I would need to remind you that my ex-husband and I are divorced, that I have recently come out as gay, and that I am now in a committed relationship with a woman," she wrote.

Such a thing never happened then, or in any school year, her rebuttal continued. She wrote that she "cannot imagine why you would credit this slanderous and irresponsible allegation" and include it in her personnel record, "other than to retaliate against me" for the EEOC filing.

Her lawyer said in an email that the performance review "is further retaliation and an attempt to create further pretexts for the adverse employment actions the Board has already taken against her."

On Aug. 15, after the state Department of Education had reviewed the evaluation submitted by Freeman, the agency stated in a letter addressed to Dressback, cc'ing Freeman, that it had "examined information regarding an investigation in the Vestavia Hills City School System" and "decided to not take action against your Alabama Educator Certificate." The same day, Freeman said in a letter to Dressback that she would "no longer be on administrative leave and may return to work" at the alternative school.

It has been baffling and infuriating to some in the community as to how such charges surfaced so soon after Dressback was given a three-year contract extension last year. The mystery that remains is why some people — people who were eager for her to continue leading the elementary school — now want her gone. The battle has been drawn up and is now readying to be fought. Dressback told me that beyond feeling driven to "defend my name and my integrity," she wants to speak up for others who come after — or who are now silent.

Of course, Dressback had hoped this could all be avoided. "I tried to just be the good employee," she told me. "I thought if I just do what they ask me to do, this is gonna get wrapped up and I'll go back to work" at Cahaba Heights.

Notably, she still feels loyalty, even love, for Vestavia Hills and its school system.

"Maybe I shouldn't feel the allegiance I feel," she said when we spoke over Zoom several weeks ago. "But I can't just turn it off. It's not like a water faucet. You know, it's my home. It's where I grew up and it's where I chose to plant my career. As betrayed as I have felt, I just can't turn my back on the system." Rather, she wants to nudge it forward.