Disabled woman, 26, reveals intrusive questions people ask - including if she can have 'rough sex' - and says she's been told her husband won't stay because 'she's a burden'

A disabled woman has revealed that people have offered her sex 'as a favour' before and even warned her that her husband 'would leave because she's a burden'.

Holly Greader, 26, from Wales, has chronic pain and hypermobility syndrome meaning she sometimes has to use a wheelchair.

She revealed that she remembers being just 16 when she was first asked if she could have sex because of her disability.

Recalling the intrusive question asked by the boys in her class, Holly told the BBC : 'I got asked things like, can you only have sex in a wheelchair? Will your joints dislocate? If I wanted to have rough sex with you, would I be able to?'

Even now, people message Holly on social media offering to have sex with her and implying she should be grateful for it.

Holly has faced years of online trolling - with some users even having the nerve to suggest that her childhood sweetheart, and now husband, James would leave her if her health declined.

The 26-year-old disability advocate runs her own blog called The World in My Words.

She has recently spoken out to challenge the negative stereotypes surrounding disabled people when it comes to dating and relationships.

The first step? Holly believes it to be better representation in the media. Often, she says, disabled people are portrayed by the media as having 'miserable lives'.

She feels as though the only character in recent memory that is a positive example of a disabled person exploring relationships is Isaac Goodwin from Netflix's Sex Education.

Played by George Robinson, Isaac is a wheelchair user who hooks up with both Maeve Wiley (Emma Mackey) and Aimee Gibbs (Aimee Lou Wood).

Many fans have praised the fact that Isaac is not defined by his disability and does not behave or act differently from any other character in the show.

Speaking of his role, Cambridgeshire-born actor George told Radio Times : 'The feedback I've got from within the disability community is that it's really refreshing to see someone who is so comfortable within themselves and not questioning their existence.'

He added: 'We are intimate sexual beings just like everyone else.'

Kat Watkins, who is the access to politics projects officer for Disability Wales, also believes that disabled people have a right to explore their sexual identity and engage in romantic relationships just like anybody else.

Kat, who has osteogenesis imperfecta which creates brittle bones, has previously been told by a doctor to cancel her smear tests as he assumed she wasn't sexually active.

'Living your life and enjoying yourself that's just part of life, and it doesn't get highlighted enough for people with disabilities,' Kat said.

Kat pointed to adaptable sex toys and aids to help people with disabilities in the bedroom - something which she said should be seen more on mainstream sex sites.

She was not surprised to hear that disabled women such as Kate received such crude messages online - saying it had become 'sadly normalised'.

Nicola Thomas, who's 38 and is registered blind, said while there are sometimes barriers to having sex, people with disabilities should be treated the same.

Nicola, who lost her sight in one eye in her twenties and her remaining sight at 33 because of an auto-immune condition, said people asking about her sex life 'kind of takes your breath back, it's such an invasive and personal question.'

The 38-year-old, who is from Caerphilly and has a boyfriend, Paul, told the BBC: 'I think there's someone out there for everybody and don't let anyone tell you or get in your head, make you feel that you're not worth as much as everybody else'.